One glass of wine on vacation went to a blackout drunk.

So that became what we fought about.

And the thing he wanted most that connection was the thing that alcohol, it just made it worse.

And so I think that while she was intoxicated with alcohol, I was intoxicated with anger and the things that I was actually driving the person away, not creating a safe place, not being, you know, the husband that God had called me to care for, you know, her humanity.

Because I didn't know. I didn't, I literally was preaching a gospel that I hadn't completely yet received like from the area of forgiveness. So how could I give her forgiveness if I never really received it for myself because of my family dysfunction in the way I was raised in all of the things. And so it was a perfect storm and through all of that, we have become imperfectly perfect.

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My name is Deborah Felata and I'm a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and author.

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None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk

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For the next few weeks, we're shifting gears a little bit. We're having couples therapy.

I've invited a few couples to come into my studio office and have a live,

on-air session about what's going on behind the scenes. We're pulling back the curtains in marriage,

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