We Need to Talk About Pornography

Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health, Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.4 • 978 Ratings

🗓️ 14 October 2025

⏱️ 56 minutes

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Summary

When pornography shows up in our lives or relationships, our instinct is often to meet it with fear, shame, silence, or attempts to control. But these responses don’t bring peace—they keep us anxious, afraid, and disconnected from ourselves and each other. In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Lauren Yarrow of The Blonde Apologist to offer a powerful reframe for those struggling to understand or navigate pornography—whether in their own lives, in marriage, while dating, or as parents. Drawing on insights from That We Might Have Joy, Dr. Finlayson-Fife explains how growth doesn’t come through control or avoidance, but through honesty, self-understanding, and integrity. JOIN US FOR THE ART OF LOVING RETREAT

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0:00.0	What we need in marriage is not the idea that everything's perfect, but the clarity that we can grow,
0:05.9	that we can be in honest conversations, that we can use who we are to better understand ourselves
0:12.7	and better understand the other. When you have that, then the marriage has a gross mechanism.
0:18.6	When we hide, when we lie, when we won't self-confront, then the marriage
0:24.0	doesn't have a way to get stronger, and therefore it's not a great place to place your heart.
0:43.6	Welcome to Conversations with Dr. Jennifer, a collection of interviews on the topics of relationships, sexuality, spirituality, and more, all featuring Dr. Finlayson-Fife.
0:57.5	Hello and welcome to a new episode.
1:02.9	I am so thrilled today to be joined by Dr. Jennifer Finlayson Fife.
1:04.3	Welcome to the podcast.
1:06.1	Thanks for having me.
1:12.5	Today's discussion is super important, and this is why I brought in someone very credible and needed for this conversation. We are going to be talking about pornography within our faith and from that
1:17.9	perspective. So this is something that affects so many individuals, but it feels like such a heavy
1:26.8	topic and very taboo in our LDS culture.
1:30.7	And so many people suffer in silence and are weighed down by shame and fear.
1:36.0	And that's why I want to have this discussion with you, Jennifer,
1:39.6	my hope is by talking about this openly,
1:41.9	we can better understand the impact of pornography
1:44.3	and support those who are struggling
1:46.7	and learn how to create homes
1:48.3	where healing and honest conversations are possible.
1:51.5	So I'd love to just start and hear from your perspective,
1:54.4	why is this an important conversation
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