And I think what happens is we have kids, now they're the priority. Now our kids are teenagers.

Now that's a priority. Now our kids are getting married. Now their relationship is our priority.

And all of a sudden, you can go decades without making relationship with God and spouse's first priority.

And the result is you're just sort of gnawing away to use that analogy, the fox foxes in the vineyard at the root of your vine.

You're just causing it to be a little more sick, a little less nourished, a little less fruitful,

a little less healthy until at some point you can actually gnaw away at it until you severed

that vine. It breaks and it dies.

Yeah, and I think the common way of thinking is, oh, when the kids are raised, then we can be married again like we

were before. But it's too late by then. You really don't know each other anymore. You've stopped

investing. We're not going to do that. No. But, I mean, it's so common because you're so busy,

you just think, oh, well, when this is over, then we can get back to that. And it's just, it's a, it's a lie in our thinking that we can fall prey to.

Well, howdy y'all? Pastor Mark here, welcoming you back to the Real Marriage Podcast.

If you don't know, we got a brand new book, my wife, Grace and I. It's called Real Romance,

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And on today's episode, we'll be delving into the song of

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Let's start with this. What they're going to get into today is they're really looking

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