We Almost Got Divorced: What's Saved Deena's Marriage After Kids

After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

Dear Media and Big Little Feelings

Big Little Feelings, After Bedtime, Deena Margolin, After Bedtime With Big Little Feelings, Kids & Family, Parenting, 105161, Kristin Gallant

4.7 • 5.7K Ratings

🗓️ 11 June 2025

⏱️ 43 minutes

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Summary

What happens when you go from loving partners… to basically roommates with two screaming babies, no sleep, and zero support?

This week, Deena sits down with her husband for the first time ever on the pod for an honest, raw conversation. Together, they open up about the silent resentments, postpartum breakdowns, missed expectations, therapy breakthroughs, and the rock-bottom moment when Deena said out loud: “I don’t want to do this anymore.”

But this isn’t just a story about almost falling apart—it’s a story about doing the deep, messy, sacred work of coming back together.

You’ll walk away feeling seen and less alone on the invisible labor load and why it breaks so many moms, plus a practical look at how they rebalanced their roles, restructured communication, and rebuilt trust. Oh, and an answer to what everyone has been asking: "How did you get your husband to go to therapy?!" (and how it changed everything).

It's ok if you're in the messy middle of your relationship. If you’re navigating the impossible mix of marriage, identity shifts, and parenting young kids—you’ll feel less alone. You’ll feel seen. You’ll feel hopeful.

And you’ll have the tools to start rewriting your own story.

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0:00.0	The following podcast is a Dear Media production.
0:05.8	Hey, besties. Today's episode is raw, real, and personal because I'm sitting down with my husband
0:12.1	for the first time ever on the show to talk about what really happened to our marriage
0:16.7	after we became parents, the resentment, the invisible load, the breaking point where I asked myself,
0:22.4	would I be happier doing this alone? And if you've ever felt unseen or overwhelmed or just
0:28.4	stuck in your relationship, well, this one's for you. Because we hit rock bottom and we found our
0:35.0	way back. So let's get into it.
0:43.6	Welcome to after bedtime, where the house is finally quiet, but the real noise begins.
0:47.9	The thoughts, the questions, the wondering if you're doing any of this right.
0:53.7	We're Kristen and Dina, child behavior experts, moms, and co-founders of big little feelings.
0:55.1	And we're not here to give you more pressure or perfect parenting energy. Nope, we're here to tell the truth, the unfiltered,
1:01.0	beautiful, brutal truth about what it means to raise kids and re-raise ourselves in the process.
1:07.1	Because parenting isn't just about sleep schedules and snack hacks. It's about healing. It's about breaking
1:12.4	cycles. It's about becoming the kind of adult you want your kids to grow up to be. This is the place
1:18.1	where we say the quiet parts out loud and we're so glad that you're here. Mike, welcome to the show.
1:25.2	Glad to be here. This is your first time ever here. Usually it's just me and Kristen,
1:30.0	and you're probably like, what are they doing in that room? First, maybe last. I don't know.
1:36.4	Well, I know you don't always love being involved in like stuff. So you're a very private person,
1:42.8	which I very much respect. So thank you for coming on
1:46.3	today. You're welcome. I'm kind of interested in being here. Kind of, just kind of. I think the
1:52.6	besties are all happier here. I'm happier here. We definitely have a story between the two of us.
1:59.3	It's been a whole growing process over the years.
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