Hello and welcome to Mom and Dad are Fighting, Slate's Parenting Podcast for Thursday, May 9th, the washing dishes on an infomercial edition.

I'm Dan Cois. I'm a writer and editor at Slate and the author of How to Be a Family coming out in September.

I'm the dad of Lyra, who just turned 14 and Harper, who's 11.

I'm Rebecca LaVoy, a journalist and podcaster in New Hampshire, and I am mom to Henry, who is 17, Teddy, who is 16, and my stepdaughter, Lily, who is 18. And I'm Carver Wallace, a writer and podcaster in Oakland, California, and I'm the father to Georgia, who was 13, and Ezra, who is 16. Today on the show, we're talking to Dr. Darcy Lachman about her viral New York Times essay,

what good dads get away with.

Plus, we've got a listener question about a rude and ungrateful 13-year-old,

which I cannot relate to as my rude and ungrateful child is 14 years old.

Plus triumphs andails, recommendations.

And on Slate Plus, Rebecca is going to very patiently explain to me why real moms hate Mother's Day.

But first, times and fails. Rebecca, do you have a triumph or a fail today, Rebecca?

I have a fail that is attached to my triumph of last time I was on the show talking about going on vacation with my kids.

And that is that my son Teddy on the way back from Mexico was the victim of a baggage handler theft.

When we, yeah, we had to land in Dulles because we were doing like the immigration and customs, you know, check in border patrol stuff. And you know,

that thing were like you have to, when you fly internationally, you got to pick up your bags and

then drop them off again. It was that whole thing. So we got all of our suitcases. They came around on the thing. And then all of a sudden, Teddy's, just his

glasses case appears like alone on the conveyor belt. He's like, that's weird. He picks it up.

And his glasses were not in them. And he was super bummed because he loves his glasses. He loves

them. A, I think they think, he thinks he, you know, they make him look cool and smart and stuff.

And also because he is very, very conscious of like trying to take good care of his things and

like prove that he's not a kid who can't be trusted with things like glasses and stuff.

So he, when it became clear after getting some help from the very nice people at Dulles that like his glasses were not on the tarmac.

They were not just floating around a suitcase somewhere, that the case had just fallen out of the bag.

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