When you reject negative emotions and pretend that everything is rose-colored, you lose early warning signs.

And when you ignore problems, they grow in the dark.

When you fake positively, you forget how to handle reality.

Welcome to Darren Daly on-demand, your most trusted resource to help you become better every day. Here's your success

mentor, Darren Hardy. Let me ask you something. How many times today have you told yourself

stay positive, look on the bright side. Everything happens for a reason. And how's that really working for you?

Be honest now. I mean, really honest. Here's what's disturbing. The more positive people try to be,

the more anxious they become, and the less resilient they actually are. You're thinking,

huh? What did you just say, Darren? Yeah, I said, the more positive people

try to be, the more anxious they become and the less resilient they actually are. It's true.

And I'm about to flip everything you believe about the power of positive thinking, completely

upside down. I, too, freaked out a bit when I first got this insight. I was interviewing one of the

world's top performance psychologists, somebody who works with Olympic athletes, elite military

units, high-stake surgeons, and other extreme performers. Nobody said, positive thinking is making

people weaker. Weaker? What? I nearly fell off my chair.

He smiled and continued, see, most people think that they must be constantly upbeat, relentlessly

optimistic, always good vibes only.

But that's not strength at all.

The truth is, it's actually toxic, dangerously toxic, he added.

He continued, while everybody's forcing positivity, the truly resilient people are doing

something entirely different. And here's where it gets fascinating. Research from Stanford revealed

the big twist. In a study of 10,000 high performers, 83% of top achievers weren't the most positive.

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