When his wife became pregnant with their fourth child, Greg panicked, but a focus on the family counselor put everything into perspective.

He said, the first thing you need to realize that kids are a blessing or all of the

blessings that their gifts from God and the second thing you said was kid value

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Focus on the Family.com slash gift. Little things left unchecked can lead to neglect in a marriage and that means your

relationship might be vulnerable to an affair.

We want to help you avoid that on today's episode.

I'm Jean Fuller joined by Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife, Aaron,

and they head up the focus marriage department.

Erin you're a counselor you see a lot of different couples.

What are some of the things that seem little perhaps

but are warning signs to you that this couple could have some trouble.

Yeah, because I definitely want to lay the foundation that these little things could be happening

and it could cause disconnect within the relationship, but someone

chooses to have an affair. So it's not like if these things are happening so

thus you know the affair is like an outcome it's recognizing

something within the marriage may have been broken not functioning well not

working and so some of those little things can impact the overall

environment of the marriage and things you know the little foxes within a

marriage it could be poor communication or lack of physical intimacy or sex, financial problems, avoiding

conflict, sweeping things under the rug, spending too much time apart, not having boundaries within spending time with the

opposite sex. So it's just going there's things that are influencing the

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