After four abortions, Distara finally learned the truth.

I heard it from focus on the family and they were talking about pro-life being a baby, a human

being in your stomach.

And I'm like, wow, that's pro life.

I'm Jim Daly.

Together we can rescue pre-born babies and their moms,

giving families hope.

Donate at focus on the family.com slash gift and your gift will be doubled. Today we're going to encourage you to guard your heart and protect your marriage.

I'm John Fuller along with Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife Aaron. They lead the

focused marriage department and Aaron you meet with a lot of couples I'm sure a

number of those couples that you've seen have had affairs impact their relationship. How often is it that an affair begins

with something that seems innocent or harmless? But then it develops into this pattern of connection and

relationship and and so on. I would say that I see that a lot that typically not always most people aren't planning on getting

involved with someone else and then they find themselves in the midst of a mess and waking up and going,

I don't know what I'm doing.

You know, sometimes it is individually there's stuff going on within them. You know, maybe there's past pain or

unresolved trauma or you know resentment bitterness, their hearts closed,

hardened, something along those lines, or maybe it's something

relationally that they weren't feeling connected to their spouse and they found this connection

elsewhere, or they found themselves having shared interests with someone else,

having conversations with someone that were at that deeper level, someone of the opposite

sex that were at that deeper level or maybe there's a physical attraction.

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