The wand is just that very simple impulse that's moving us, that moves us to have a closer relationship with our loved ones.

It is a constant pull that leads us all the way down the developmental line.

If we allow it, it'll take us all the way to freedom. Welcome to the art of accomplishment,

where we explore how deepening connection with ourselves and others leads to creating the life we

want with enjoyment and ease. I'm Brett Kisler, here today with my co-host, Joe Hudson.

If you look at all the bad habits that you've been trying to stop for a decade,

you'll find they all have one thing in common.

They're all things you're telling yourself you should stop doing.

The same is likely true for the things you tell yourself you should be doing more of,

finishing a project, going to the gym, calling your mom.

What if thinking you should is what keeps you stuck?

And what if getting in touch with your wants in a deep way is the quickest way to get unstuck?

Let's get to the bottom of this.

So Joe, I would think this is pretty obvious, but you usually have a unique definition of things.

So what exactly do you mean by should?

Yeah, should is a mechanism of shame.

It is, and there's a saying that says the shame is the locks that keep the chains of bad habits in place.

So should is like a really bad management technique.

It's energetically, it's oppressive.

Intellectually, it's control-based. Emotionally, it's rigidity. And neurologically, it's a threat.

Right. So if you say to somebody, you should really do that, there is a threat in that.

And what's interesting is that same energy really doesn't happen in certain cultures.

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