The reason that somebody gets angry at somebody else is because they haven't gotten angry by themselves.

They haven't. It takes them a while to build that kind of anger. So go release your anger and then talk to the person.

Go get really, really scared and then talk to your boss about the race that you want.

You have the emotional experience and then go, take the action.

Welcome to the art

of accomplishment, where we explore how deepening connection with ourselves and others leads to

creating the life we want with enjoyment and ease. I'm Brett Kistler, here today with my co-host,

Joe Hudson. So, Joe, many of us are taught to manage our feelings and to be logical, especially when it comes to important or complex matters.

And what makes feeling so important?

That is a great question.

So in a, I think it's a 2012 book called DeCart's Error, and neuroscientist talks about what happens to people

if they lose the emotional center of their brain. And it's a little more complex in this,

but to simplify it, if I took the emotional center of your brain out, you would cease to make

decisions. It would take you a half an hour to decide what color pen to use it would take you four hours to

decide where to have lunch and though your IQ would maintain the same in fact in the book there's

somebody whose IQ remains the same very high level IQ is incredibly intelligent but their business

falls apart their marriage falls apart everything falls apart because they can't make decisions.

And what it indicates to us is that we are thinking we're making rational decisions, but there's really no such thing. There's only emotional decisions. And you can think about this in terms of your own life, really simply, just think about how many

decisions of your life were made because you didn't want to feel like a failure, or how many

decisions were made so that you could feel loved, how many decisions were made so that you could

feel like you were seen by your friends, and how many decisions were made so that you wouldn't be rejected. Tremendous amounts, huge swaths of our

decision making, you can immediately see are very emotional. The intellect is really good at trying to

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