Wakes, Funerals, Grief and Booze
Sober Awkward
Victoria Vanstone
4.8 • 533 Ratings
🗓️ 13 October 2024
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
No-one really talks about death or prepares for it. Is this why booze is so prevalent at wakes and funerals?
The way us humans deal with death doesn't seem to evolve. You put on a black outfit, grab a sarnie and a tissue, then, generally, everyone gets totally shitfaced. Then you accidentally offend the grieving widow, fall down some stairs, get thrown out of a pub and stumble home singing 'Oh Danny Boy.' Then, after the wake you have to deal with a hangover on top of all those difficult feelings. It's an emotional mess.
Booze doesn't help. It prolongs the mourning period and makes recovery from the death of a loved one a lot more painful. So, why do we do it?
Unfortunately death is something all us sober folks will face at some stage. Death is part of life, we will lose people. So, how do you handle it as a sober person? Should you even go and risk your sobriety or are there other ways that you can remember someone without getting three sheets to the wind - blotto.
On Sober Awkward we like to talk about the hard stuff, (not whiskey!) plan for unexpected situations and confront emotions (and talk a little bit too much about Hamish's sheep fetish - say no more.) but we hope by digging deep into the more difficult aspects of life, we can help you feel stronger in your sobriety and help you approach the death of a loved-one without the risk of relapse
So why are funerals and wake so boozy? Is it ok not to go? and how would the person that dies feel if you said 'No' to raising a glass at their send off?
Find out in this slightly more serious episode of Sober Awkward.
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| 0:00.0 | My name is Norman Cook. Welcome to the Sober Awkward podcast. Have you ever woken up on a |
| 0:11.1 | Sunday morning and said, I'm never drinking again, and then found yourself waving 50 bucks at a |
| 0:15.7 | barman by happy hour? Are you wondering why everyone else can stop at one while you head to a dodgy after party with a weird bloke called Disco Dave? |
| 0:23.9 | If so, it might be time to take a deeper look at your relationship with your reliable social crutch, alcohol. |
| 0:30.6 | On each episode, we'll investigate our own dysfunctional dealings with booze and find out if it's possible to stop this deeply ingrained habit |
| 0:37.6 | before things get too messy. |
| 0:39.8 | Yep, we're going to open up a shame shed of humiliating drinking stories to help you understand |
| 0:44.7 | why waking up from a booze coma each weekend with a kebab sticking out of your top pocket |
| 0:48.6 | might actually be negatively impacting your health. |
| 0:52.1 | Hamish and I are here to delve into what it's like being sober. |
| 0:56.0 | An unwanted warts and all look into why giving up those cheeky pints |
| 0:59.4 | or putting down those mummy wines will make you feel happier, |
| 1:03.4 | help your anxiety and mental health, |
| 1:05.4 | and turn you into the most sparkly, authentic version of you. |
| 1:08.7 | Won't that mean I become boring, though, Vic? |
| 1:10.6 | Well, Hamish, we'll just have to wait and see. |
| 1:13.1 | I'm Victoria Vanstone. |
| 1:14.8 | I'm Hamish Adams-Kairns. |
| 1:16.4 | And this is sober awkward. |
| 1:22.6 | So sadly, a few people that I know have died in the past few weeks, Hamish. |
| 1:26.6 | Wow. Friends, family? No, kind of acquaintances. It's always a shock, isn't it? |
| 1:30.6 | When you hear about people just there and then they're gone, it's very old, isn't it? When it's someone you don't know very well, there was a guy from my writing group passed away. an 82-year-old guy died in a motorbike accident |
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