Hey everyone and welcome back to BU with BU.

Today's episode was recorded at a live event in Louisville, Kentucky,

where Brian shares one of the many life lessons he has learned since becoming a parent.

Kids are great negotiators.

I mean, unbelievable negotiators. And sometimes our love for our kids,

we allow them to influence us more than we're influencing them. It's like, wait, who's the parent here?

I mean, I do it every day, whether it's Fortnite, whether it's phones, whether it's staying up late.

Like, it's like, where in me down, right?

But I've learned a lot. But I'll never forget this. Before I had kids, I didn't understand it. And I didn't understand how they were ruthless negotiators. And the thing that I found out in my own

self-discovery of, like, wanting to really be a great parent to my kids and, like,

you know, teaching them to fend for myself is that, that I've learned really more tactics on

negotiating than I ever did from any course I've ever taken, right? But I've also learned that

sometimes that as parents, that we can stifle that in our children

because we want to be, you know, we say no and we don't have the proper tools to create the right

direction or the right boundaries or whatever it might be. And so I'm working on that currently.

But, you know, if I hadn't had this experience, I don't think I would have grown into that

self-awareness that I need that, right? So like for me, for some of you that know me, like, when I get in my mode, like, I'm like, let's go, let's go. Like, so my son, Brixton is a little bit of a people-pleaser. He gets it naturally, but he is the kindest heart, like, he can talk I mean I mean he has really good

language for his age and don't know where he gets that and and then my other son

Bryland he could give zero fucks like about anything like and but he's so smart like you

never seem common but like he knows how to get his way. True story. And, um, Brilyn will like, poke, like, let's go and he'll act like he doesn't hear you. He hears you. He just not ready to go yet, you know, or he's playing his game. And so then finally I get to a point,

come on, let's go, let's go, Brian, let's go. And Brian has like sensory things a lot like me. And so when I'm going, let's go, come on, let's go, let's go, let's go, let's go. Come on, let's go, let's go. Come on, get your shoes on. Let's go. Get your jacket. Let's go. Let's go. I read that you should never do that as a parent.

I'm like, well, I fucked him up.

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