Hi, I'm Corey Wayne. Today we got a viewer who's been living with his now ex-girlfriend for a year.

Just broke up with her four days ago. I'd say probably 90% of the people that come to me.

This is kind of the situation they're in. They may have even known about my work.

And their friend gave them, gave the books. She said, hey, read this book.

They're like, oh, I'm busy.

I don't have time.

And then they get dumped.

They're like, what was that dude's name?

A shaved head, pasty white guy on YouTube.

Ooh, my girlfriend dumped me.

So that's where this guy is.

So he says, hey, coach, I've been living with my now ex-girlfriend for a year.

We broke up four days ago, and during our time together, we've been struggling with me getting emotionally triggered.

The key is unperturbable.

You want to be unperturbable.

And if you're getting emotionally triggered, it communicates you don't have self-pertururbable. You want to be unperturbable. And if you're getting emotionally triggered,

it communicates you don't have self-control. If you're not in control of yourself,

how are you going to deal with an emotional or bossy woman or kids or you're getting passed over for a raise or a promotion.

It makes a woman feel unsafe when every time something bad happens, you just lose your shit basically.

So you cannot behave that way around women and expect them to stay sexually attracted

to you for any period of time.

So what's happening is he's choosing to not exercise emotional self-control and losing it like a child

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