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Tanya, how old is your child?

He is 11.

He is 11.

So your son is 11 years old.

Yes.

And I have tried to have to talk with him, but he is so shy and passive that he just

complete, you could see it in his face.

He just freaks out.

And I know that he's just getting to that age, he's going to, you know, where he's going to start doing stuff. And I just stresses me out big time. So I really don't know. I'm trying to approach it in every which way I can, but he just, he just backs out. He just stresses out on it. Like I don't even know where you start the conversation. You sit them down and you go, there's something serious I got to talk to you about? He started in the kitchen by yourself with about three beers. Yeah, really. No, he came home the other day and he said, Mom, I'm done with girlfriend number two. I'm on girlfriend number three. And I'm like, what? What are you talking about? And yet he won't talk to me about, you know, sex.

So it's starting to really worry me because, like you said, I have no idea what he's doing at school during recess or, you know.

Right.

Well, if your initial reaction is, what?

Then maybe that might.

Yeah, that's going to be uncomfortable, but it's way more comfortable than him coming home saying, hey, I got somebody, another 12-year-old or a 13-year-old pregnant, so you... Yeah, well, no, I didn't freak out when he told me about the girlfriend thing. Trust me, I had the poker face, but inside I was like, oh, you little pervert, you know? But I just, I mean, I'm trying to approach it, you know, as best I can. Right. But, you know, like I said, I definitely, I mean, listening to that stuff this morning, I just don't, you know, I got pregnant when I was young, and I just don't want him to have to deal with that also, you know. So what is it that you think he knows about already and what is it that you guys are going to talk about tonight?

That thing is I don't know. He did ask me about girls periods the other day. So that I could maybe start off with that little conversation.

I don't know, but I mean it's better than nothing. So but as far as, you know, oral and intercourse and all that, I really, I couldn't tell you how far in depth he knows. I mean, he may know more than I think he does, you know. And maybe one of those things where, I mean, and we're going back quite a way, so I don't really recall what I knew or didn't know at 11, but I like new rumors of things, you know?

Right.

That's what I'm saying. I was trying to think about his age and how much I do, and, you know, I don't want him to get ideas from other kids in school, you know, like you can get pregnant standing up, that kind of stuff, you know, but I just, you know, it worries me, just like any other parent out there.

You just, you don't want to be a young grandparent.

You don't want to mess their lives up, so you try to do the best you can, you know? Yeah, these are the ages where you can get it all twisted. I think we've talked about this on the show before, where one parent was telling his teen, or his pre-teen daughter, like when she was 11 years old,

that she could get pregnant by just sitting on a guy's lap because he saw his daughter on the lap of a guy at the mall, so he didn't want that to happen anymore. And she went. No, I'm not that bad. She went, who knows how long, really thinking that was the truth, you know? No, I'm pretty laid back. I'm not embarrassed at all to talk about it. Not one bit, but he's one that just, I think, is more uncomfortable with me approaching him.

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