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Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm Mill Smith and I'm joined by Dr. Kim Kim

ling and today we're talking about value the things they value. This month we've been talking

about healing a train wreck marriage and each week we've been sharing one way to heal an unhealthy marriage.

So today we're talking about valuing the things they value. Dr. Kim, can you talk a little bit?

Maybe what does that mean to value the things that your spouse values? Yeah, that's such a good point.

And I think it's something that we all have to really work at and learn in our marriage because I'm not sure, unless it lines up with something that is important to us, we don't do that really easily. So I think for us, it's been making, for me, it's making something important to me that's important to Nancy. And when I do that, that helps her see that I am taking an interest. I mean,

I may not have it on the same level that she does, but it shows that I'm interested, that I care,

that I value what, I try to value what she does, even though my value may not be the same amount, but because

it's important to her, make it important to me. So that's kind of what I've learned over the

years that seems to work for us. Very good. And so what does the opposite look like? So as you've

met with couples or maybe you had phases in your marriage where you're not not valuing those things. What is what does

that look like? Oh, I you know, I think at times in merit it's like that's so stupid. Why does she

think that's important? You know, not saying those things out loud at all, you know, but thinking

what it is. And then I think what when you don't do that, you miss an opportunity

to connect. I guess that's what I've seen. You know, when I would, Nancy really likes me to be

a companion in things that she does. And so I hated going clothes shopping with her. You know,

I never really said that, but I could always find an excuse or, you know,

once you take Julia and daughter, you know, something like that.

And what I saw when one time, I think it was Christmas shopping, and we were shopping together,

and that was great and I was doing that.

And I just saw her, something light up in her because I was with her.

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