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The Anxious Achiever

Using Achievement - and Exercise - to Cope

The Anxious Achiever

Morra Aarons-Mele

Business, Careers, Management, Health & Fitness, Mental Health

4.7599 Ratings

🗓️ 9 November 2022

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Summary

Emi Nietfeld is one of those people who looks great on paper. Raised in tumultuous circumstances and facing mental health challenges in her early teens, she went on to get into Harvard and work at Google. Now as an adult, she’s an author and has faced the unhealthy reasons behind her perfectionism. She shares her story about overachievement, overexercise, and overwork as a method of control and emotional survival, and what she hopes our society can learn about relying too much on personal excellence. A note that this episode includes discussion of sensitive topics like eating disorders and self-harm. Read her op-ed here: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/08/opinion/exercise-depression-anxiety-trauma.html

Transcript

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0:00.0

LinkedIn Presents.

0:10.3

I'm Maura Arons-Mili, and this is The Anxious Achiever.

0:14.1

We look at stories from business leaders who've dealt with anxiety, depression, or other mental health challenges, how they fell down, how they pick

0:22.1

themselves up, and how they hope work will change in the future.

0:34.1

Before we start today's show and at the risk of being a little too achievement oriented, I have to tell you that this is the 100th episode of The Anxious Achiever.

0:43.5

To those of you who've been with us from the beginning, or if you've just picked up the show this week, thank you.

0:49.6

Thank you for helping the show grow, for doing your own part in destigmatizing the topic of mental

0:54.9

health at work, for sharing the show with your friends, and for downloading it millions of

0:58.8

times. Now, today's show, it's the first in a two-part series on perfectionism. Many of our

1:06.7

struggles, especially our mental ones, are hidden from the world. And those of you who think

1:11.8

of yourselves as anxious achievers probably work hard to control or to create an image of what the

1:18.2

world sees of you, the person who never has a typo in their emails, never forgets a birthday,

1:24.9

or whose body looks a certain way because they never miss a day in the gym.

1:29.6

We're driven to pursue perfectionism for all kinds of underlying reasons, and we'll

1:34.9

explore in the series the many myths behind perfectionism.

1:39.4

I was inspired to reach out to our guest today because I read an op-ed she wrote on

1:43.1

overexercise, a piece she wrote on over-exercise.

1:45.0

A piece she wrote called,

1:46.0

Exercise was the perfect coping mechanism until it wasn't.

1:50.0

She opened up in that piece and in her other writing about her journey from being a homeless teenager

1:55.0

to being accepted into Harvard University and working at Google.

1:59.0

But the big achievement that she had been chasing

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