Unrequited Love: Episode 732
The Boundless Show
Focus on the Family
4.7 • 772 Ratings
🗓️ 10 February 2022
⏱️ 61 minutes
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Summary
When the person you like isn’t attracted to you, plus hope for people-pleasers, and how to respond to a single pastor’s romantic interest.
Featured musical artist: Covenant Worship ( https://covenantchurch.org/whatwedo/worship/ )
Roundtable: When Attraction Isn’t Mutual
You happen to really like someone, but as you get to know them it becomes clear that the feelings of attraction aren’t mutual. Should you hold on to the hope that their feelings will change, or is it safer to just move on? Our panel shares ideas for navigating the awkwardness and disappointment of unrequited love, and how you can find peace even when someone doesn’t like you back.
Culture: Taming the People-Pleasing Monster (Part 2)
People-pleasers abound. In fact, if you’re honest, you probably are one. People-pleasers do the hard work, hoping someone will notice or give us a compliment for our efforts. Or we never say “no,” afraid to face disapproval or rejection. But constantly looking for approval will only leave us feeling used and depleted. Dr. Mike Bechtle shares how he’s struggled with and learned to stop trying to live for the approval of others. In part two of our discussion, he’ll share some practical tips for overcoming people-pleasing tendencies.
Inbox: My Pastor Wants to Date Me
She just moved and started attending a young adults group at her new church. However, the pastor is a single guy who has started showing interest in her. She appreciates his attention, but isn’t interested in dating right now. How should she respond? Counselor MT Wilson weighs in.
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| 0:00.0 | Friends, it is that time of year when people contact you and ask you to bless them as we are in the Christmas season and heading into a new year with a monetary gift. |
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| 1:01.9 | Well, hey everyone and welcome to this week's episode of The Boundless Show. And happy Valentine's Day weekend as you are anticipating Valentine's Day coming up, whether you like it or hate it. Happy Valentine's Day anyway. You know that I love it. And I'm not ashamed to say it. So just putting it out there. |
| 1:28.2 | Okay, onto the show. Later on for our inbox, we have a girl who started attending a young |
| 1:32.4 | adults group at her church, and the pastor of the group happens to be a single guy who really |
| 1:37.5 | likes her. So she's like, this is kind of awkward. I don't even know how to respond to this. |
| 1:42.1 | Well, one of our counselors is going to give her some pointers. |
| 1:52.3 | And then for our culture segment, our friend Dr. Mike Bechtel is back with us to chat more about the dangers of being a people pleaser. |
| 2:00.4 | And now in part two, he's going to share ways to overcome people pleasing, really with some great strategies and understanding our tendencies towards that. |
| 2:01.4 | So you don't want to miss it. |
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