Learning to Rest: Episode 731
The Boundless Show
Focus on the Family
4.7 • 772 Ratings
🗓️ 3 February 2022
⏱️ 60 minutes
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Summary
Making time for rest, plus common fears of a people-pleaser, and should you and your spouse have separate bank accounts?
Featured musical artist: David Baloche ( https://www.louderthanthemusic.com/product.php?id=2437 )
Roundtable: How to Rest Well
Your to-do list is full and it seems like you don’t have enough time to catch your breath. Are you taking on too much? Are your priorities off? Maybe you don’t know the difference between “checking out” and getting true restorative rest. Our guests share ways they’ve learned to practice self-care and rest well, even with busy lives.
Culture: Taming the People-Pleasing Monster (Part 1)
People-pleasers abound. In fact, if you’re honest, you probably are one. People-pleasers do the hard work, hoping someone will notice or give us a compliment for our efforts. Or we never say “no,” afraid to face disapproval or rejection. But constantly looking for approval will only leave us feeling used and depleted. Dr. Mike Bechtle shares how he’s struggled with and learned to stop trying to live for the approval of others. In part one of our discussion, he’ll share the common fears that people-pleasers face.
Inbox: Separate Finances in Marriage?
She and her boyfriend are close to getting engaged, but she’s troubled by some of his requests. Years ago, he went through a tough divorce where he lost a lot. Now, he’s wanting to have separate bank accounts and has even mentioned her signing a prenuptial agreement. What’s the best way for her to respond to these concerns? Counselor Glenn Lutjens weighs in.
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| 1:15.0 | And happy February to you, first of all, as we get started this month. But later on for our inbox, we have a listener on the verge of getting engaged. But her boyfriend is pretty adamant that they have separate bank accounts when they get |
| 1:27.9 | married, among some other things as well. And she's wondering, is this a reason to be concerned, |
| 1:33.0 | is doing so even biblical? One of our counselors is going to weigh in. And then for our culture segment, |
| 1:38.5 | our friend Dr. Mike Bechtel is here to discuss a book he has written on overcoming people pleasing. Is that possible if |
| 1:46.2 | you're a people pleaser? So it might be something you've struggled with. You're going to want to |
| 1:50.2 | tune in to this. This is going to be part one of our conversation. So this time around, we're going to |
| 1:55.2 | address some common fears that people pleasers have. Well, here we are for our roundtable. And we always think, you know, |
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