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I cannot recall how many times it's been but it's been a lot when my wife and I've had to retire if you will to the bedroom to have a private conversation about something that one of the kids has done or wants because

Dina and I are not on the same page and this is entirely common when you have

teenagers it just seems to come more and more and you've got to be united in your decision-making as parents

That's really the heart of what Jim Burns was saying when he spoke with focus president Jim Daly and me

Let's go ahead and listen in.

I just want to play out a couple of scenarios

and get your response to them.

Because I think, like most parents, they're probably

living in places that you and I, John,

live and people that work here at focus. It's really no different.

We have access to a lot of resources, but just the generic points.

And temperament matters when it comes to parenting we're wired differently.

Typically people marry their opposites.

So to your point a moment ago, with Kathy being more

the disciplinary and you're more the Disneyland dad,

I like that description, you know, that's kind of normal in the parenting struggle.

And being on the same page can be difficult.

But I want to play those scenarios through because of moms and wives listening right now and dads and husbands listening.

That discussion that might happen in your bedroom or in the garage where the kids are away and

the one parent, usually the disciplinarian parent is saying to the

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