Uninvited Guests - The 50/50 Lie
Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram Daily Podcast
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🗓️ 2 October 2025
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
When tackling an important project, it is natural to want to divide all the tasks fairly, so everyone shares the responsibilities and weight of the job. However, in this program, Chip Ingram cautions that while that strategy may be successful in the workplace, it often causes stress, burnout, and resentment at home. Hear what God’s Word says about an all-in partnership with your spouse, that is deeply rewarding and life-giving.
Fighting lies with truth
Lie #6:
- Marriage is a 50-50 proposition. As long as everyone does their part everything will be okay.
The truth:
- Marriage is a 100%-100% proposition. It is an UNCONDITIONAL commitment to an imperfect person. It’s giving the other person what they need the MOST, when they DESERVE it the least, at great PERSONAL COST.
Key verse:
- John 13:34-35
Lie #7:
- Marriage shouldn’t be this difficult. No matter how hard I work it seems like we always have issues to work through. I really wonder if it’s worth it.
The truth:
- Everything of great value requires COMMITMENT, SACRIFICE, and PERSEVERANCE. As my spouse and I face challenges and overcome them, our intimacy and joy will far outweigh our present problems.
Key verse:
- Galatians 6:9
Lie #8:
- I’ve tried hard to make this marriage work, but it’s too far gone. God wants me to be happy and I know He’ll understand if I get a divorce.
The truth:
- God HATES divorce. No marriage is beyond repair. If Jesus can raise the dead, He can certainly RESURRECT my marriage.
Key verse:
- Malachi 2:16
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| 0:00.0 | When you and your coworkers approach a big project, it seems perfectly reasonable to divide |
| 0:07.0 | up the tasks evenly, so everyone does their fair share. |
| 0:10.7 | But does the same principle work in our marriages too? |
| 0:14.2 | Coming up on Living on the Edge, our Bible teacher Chip Ingram argues that this idea is actually |
| 0:19.2 | a subtle lie that will cause you to burn out and become |
| 0:22.8 | resentful toward your spouse. I'm Dave Gruy. Thanks for joining us as we continue our series |
| 0:28.3 | uninvited guests, recognizing and resisting the attacks on your family. So far, Chip's been |
| 0:34.4 | focusing on the institution of marriage, revealing the dangerous misbeliefs |
| 0:38.8 | husbands and wives have adopted, which can destroy their relationship. |
| 0:43.4 | And before he picks up in our study, if this is your first time listening to Living on the Edge |
| 0:47.9 | or you're curious about what we do or who we are, visit Living on the Edge.org. |
| 0:54.1 | You'll discover a wealth of valuable tools we've created to equip you in your walk with Jesus. |
| 0:59.0 | So check out living on the edge.org today. |
| 1:04.0 | All right, grab your Bible and notes and settle in for Chip's insightful talk, The 50-50 Lie. |
| 1:16.2 | As I was thinking about the misbelief that we're going to cover, I think of a husband that I know, I've known him for over 10 years, maybe a bit more, and of all the husbands |
| 1:21.6 | I've ever known on the face of the earth, I admire him the most. Not that I don't have |
| 1:26.8 | lots of friends that are great husbands, |
| 1:28.8 | and I admire and I want to learn from him, but this guy has a very unique situation. I got to know |
| 1:35.4 | him as I was pastoring here in the Silicon Valley. He immediately got involved. His wife had |
| 1:40.4 | the incredible prayer ministry, and we didn't spend a whole lot of time together but just like |
| 1:45.4 | wow and a little bit later they came and said we'd like to talk to you about something and I thought |
| 1:50.3 | oh what's wrong and he said my wife and I have been praying and thinking and you know this is a very |
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