Have you ever found yourself in an emotional standoff with your mate?

You had an argument or disagreement, and each of you waited for the other to apologize.

Or worse yet, if no one took the first step, did you sweep the issue and all your feelings under the rut?

Well, today we'll learn how unresolved conflict and impossible expectations can damage the foundation of your marriage.

Hello, everyone, I'm Dave Drew. You're listening to Living on the Edge with Chip Ingram.

In just a minute, Chip will pick up in our newest series Uninvited Guests.

Now, in this program, he'll debunk the notion that marriage should be easy by revealing

three more lies that couples have believed. But with that, here's Chip with his message,

the perfect marriage myth. One of the things I really love doing, although I'm not a senior pastor

anymore, I was asked to help with a young married couples class.

And so I started one of the classes, and I said something very matter of fact.

I said, all of you will at some point in your marriage struggle with roles, money, in-laws, and sex.

And I kind of paused.

And I looked around the room, and it wasn't audible, but it was like,

a gas, they're like, what, what? And the others were like, I can see other people with those

kind of issues, but that could never be a problem for us. I assured them that no matter how much

they loved each other, at some point they're going to have conflict

and probably arguments about roles. Who does what? And how often? Who takes care of this and who

takes care of that? Hey, why didn't you fill up my car with gas, dear? And you think, well, because it's

not my car. And then you find out that, in my case, well, her dad always filled up the car with gas.

That's what men do.

Well, they didn't do that at my house.

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