She might come to bed and say, are you going to pray? And I say, nope, because I'm still mad.

She says, well, I am. And she would pray by the time she was done praying, my heart is softened and I prayed.

Today we're hearing more from a classic conversation with late Dr David Stoop and his wife

Dr. Jan's Stoop. Welcome to focus on the family with Jim Daly. I'm John Fuller.

I find it fascinating, John, that the Bible is full of emotion and emotional people.

Just read a couple pages from the book of Psalms. You'll see displays of frustration, grief, anger, and joy.

God gave us feelings for reason, but although it's not good to suppress our emotions,

we also can't let our feelings harden our hearts or control us.

Last time we shared a great conversation about how God wired us emotionally and how we need

to understand what our guests call the BEP, basic emotional posture.

From there we can trace our feelings back to their original source and use that to figure out why we say the things that we say and regret those things that we say, especially

to our spouse.

Because let's be honest, we've all done that at one time or another I probably do it too

often that's for sure well except you I'm guilty too boy all the time I really am

going to be listening in closely as we revisit this content from

Dave and Jan Stoop. I think it's going to help me improve my emotional intelligence

some and by the way we took the smart assessment last time and we talked a little bit about that

if you missed the last part of the conversation find it on our website or download our free

mobile app it's a great way to access the archives and

listen anytime you want. Also as we mentioned last time Jan Stoop is a

counselor and a leader of marriage retreats and she used to do those at one time together with her husband the late

Dr David stoop together they wrote the book the emotionally healthy marriage

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