Understanding Different Sexual Needs
Focus on the Family Marriage Podcast
Focus on the Family
4.5 • 1.9K Ratings
🗓️ 24 January 2023
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
When it comes to how people define "intimacy," it's fairly common for husbands and wives to have different definitions. John and Erin discuss how men and women define "intimacy," and Greg provides some encouragement to couples where one spouse has a stronger desire for sex than the other. Featuring Mr. Gary Thomas and Mrs. Debra Fileta.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey friends, here's the latest episode of my podcast, ReFocus with Jim Daily, featuring |
| 0:04.6 | former NFL player, Benjamin Watson. He shares about protecting the lives of every human being, |
| 0:10.4 | pursuing justice for all. Visit ReFocus with JimDaily.com. |
| 0:20.5 | If you ask a man, what is intimacy, a very common response is going to be intimacy is sex, |
| 0:27.6 | but real intimacy is so much more than that. It's also learning to work through struggles as a couple. |
| 0:33.8 | And I'm John Fuller, along with Greg Smolley and his wife, Erin. They lead the focus marriage team. |
| 0:39.6 | And Erin, you counsel a lot of individuals and couples and you have a thriving vibrant practice. |
| 0:47.0 | How often do you encounter husbands and wives who define intimacy differently? |
| 0:52.9 | All the time. Greg and I were sitting in the airport yesterday. I talked about that in an earlier |
| 0:59.1 | episode. And we were talking about this question. And I was like, when do they not define it differently? |
| 1:05.2 | I mean, sometimes they do see it the same way. But usually as individuals, we see it differently. |
| 1:11.4 | We define it differently based on how our heart feels connected to the other person. |
| 1:16.4 | And so sometimes it is a gender difference, but sometimes it's a personality difference or a |
| 1:20.6 | love language difference or, you know, and so I know for me, I feel so connected and intimate with |
| 1:26.6 | Greg when we have a deep heartfelt conversation. But I don't know that that does it for you. |
| 1:32.6 | I mean, definitely it connects me to you when we have that sort of conversation. But there's |
| 1:39.0 | something though, I feel so intimate with you when we are just laughing and doing something fun |
| 1:46.3 | together. We've gotten into this new game called Monopoly deal. It's just a cart game. |
| 1:52.8 | And it's been remarkable just how much fun it is to come home from work and we'll get dinner going |
| 2:00.3 | and we just sit down and while we're eating dinner, we're playing this Monopoly deal. |
| 2:06.7 | You might call that an Egyptian, but that's intimacy for me. Because we're just laughing and |
| 2:12.9 | being goofy and stealing cards from each other. It's just it's a yeah, so that I ask you for the |
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