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Well from one perspective we could say that catastrophizing thoughts, worrying

hypochondria creates a false sense of security and preparation.

There's this idea that if we can visualize the absolute worst

possibility, that somehow we won't be caught off guard

and some of the earliest attachment disturbances in childhood happened when we

expected to get love nurturing attention and instead there were times where there was unavailability or a lack of

attuned being seen or there was a disconnection. So the child very often around four or five years of age starts

creating escapist fantasies as a compensation for lack of warmth and security but also can start

visualizing worst-case scenarios. We have ongoing difficult painful effects or emotions that are really uncomfortable

arising that are triggered by all kinds of events in our lives, especially events that have to do with disappointing interpersonal outcomes.

When we expect approval from someone and we get criticism and we expect to connect with someone and they become unavailable when

we feel isolated. Generally the brain is set up in times of dislocation, disconnection, there's a circuit in the anterior cingulate cortex to create emotional pain.

Well, that's fun.

It was essentially instilled throughout our evolution as a way to go to us, push us,

incline us to connect because that was our greatest survival.

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