Understand Your Attachment Styles, Needs, and Behaviors: Episode 326
EmPowered Couples with The Freemans
Aaron & Jocelyn Freeman
5.0 • 589 Ratings
🗓️ 16 January 2024
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
Attachment is a key term and principle for relationships and refers to the way in which you bond and connect with your partner. The theory of Attachment Style has become much more popular in recent years from its conception by John Bowlby in 1969. Though many are familiar with the Secure and Insecure categorizations and the insecure types of avoidant, anxious, and fearful; people are not so familiar with the attachment needs and behaviors that are as critical.
All of this as a theory can feel very conceptual so in this episode you will hear even more depth about the attachment needs, and behaviors so that you can take more practical action to move in the direction of a secure relationship experience. Even if you are securely attached with your partner you will hear how to maintain this on a range of relationship confidence and trust.
Also, utilize our resources to put this into practice:
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The Family Meeting guide and tempaltes.
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The Steps to Rebuild a Marriage guide
3. All of our resources are here.
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast. |
| 0:03.1 | We're here you get modern, non-boring relationship advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay in the same team no matter the challenge that you face. |
| 0:12.7 | I'm one of your host, Aaron Freeman. |
| 0:14.2 | And I'm Jocelyn Freeman, but you all just know us as the Freeman's. |
| 0:17.1 | And this episode is about understanding your attachment styles, needs, and behaviors. |
| 0:23.6 | And those are three different aspects of really understanding how your relationship, |
| 0:29.2 | even though you are two different people, can still thrive. |
| 0:33.1 | Now, for some of you, attachment styles is something you have heard of. |
| 0:36.5 | You've seen it online. And for others, |
| 0:39.2 | it's going to be brand new. And so we're going to give you a great overview to understand, |
| 0:42.7 | to implement this into your relationship. Now, I want to say something because a lot of you |
| 0:46.9 | put this in our question box on social media. Like we said, what do you want us to talk about? |
| 0:51.7 | And a lot of people mentioned attachment styles. |
| 0:54.5 | And here's the thing as we go throughout this, through attachment styles, needs, and behaviors |
| 0:59.7 | is don't get so fixated on your style. |
| 1:04.9 | Sometimes people will be like, oh my gosh, my partner is either the avoidant, they're the anxious, and we're going |
| 1:11.6 | to describe what those mean. And now it's almost like you prescribe them and diagnose them |
| 1:16.8 | and, you know, now have this way of kind of putting them in a box or same thing with yourself. |
| 1:22.1 | Now, what you're going to find from the attach mask styles is that they are informative, right? |
| 1:27.0 | Like, it is useful to understand |
| 1:29.3 | absolutely why you act the way you act, right? Because that's really what is most useful to have that |
| 1:36.9 | awareness is, okay, I do this thing in my relationship. Why do I do that thing? You know, that's true self-awareness, but you don't want to box yourself or your partner |
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