Hello and welcome to the Empower Couples podcast where here you get modern, non-boring relationship

advice for you and your partner to communicate like pros, fight smarter, and stay in the same team

no matter the challenge that you face. I am one of your host, Aaron Freeman. And I'm Jocelyn Freeman,

but you all just know us as the Freeman's. In this episode, it is a powerful one, by the way. I think

very important. But it's understand why

your partner does things the way they do at a deeper level.

Ever wonder to yourself like, why, why do they do it that way?

Or why won't?

Of course you do.

Why won't they do it this way?

And you are like, I really want to understand like what is driving that?

To me, this is one of the most significant topics around relationships, but it also has to do

a lot with personal development, right?

So it's actually where this principle comes from and we want to just reframe it for relationships

here. And how often do

we we will put both of ourselves in this category how often do you get frustrated with your partner

because of something they did right so when it first happens you're probably like oh i don't like that

that's not great but then how much more frustrating is it when it first happens, you're probably like, ooh, I don't like that. That's not great. But then, how much more

frustrating is it when it happens multiple times and you really want something to change, which is typically what? When you start to verbalize,

oh yeah. Really going to need you to change that. I am very frustrated. It can come out as complaints, frustration,

reacting to them. Yes. Well, the main thing, it does become very focused on them. And from this

state, you could call frustration that you're in, there isn't a lot of influence here. We've talked

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