Welcome to the Bear Marriage Podcast, I'm Sheila Reg Regwar from to love honor and

vacuum.com where we like to talk about healthy evidence-based biblical advice for

your marriage and your sex life. It is the summer and I'm actually taking a month off of podcasts. We'll be back in August with some great new interviews, but this month I thought what we could do is rerun some of my favorite ones that are over a year old now that a lot of my newer

listeners may not have heard. We passed a million downloads at the beginning of 2022 and we have so many new people on board on the blog on the

podcast and I don't want you to miss some of the great material that we had

oh eons ago and so without further ado here's a podcast on how unconditional respect is not a thing.

It was episode 80 of the Bear Marriage Podcast.

Here we go, unconditional respect. Let's start to demolish this. I recently said something on

Instagram where I talked about this and it went quite big so I'm going to read to you what I said on

Instagram. Unconditional respect is not a thing. Can we please stop talking

about it? Lately I have seen so many social media shares, podcasts and pins about wives giving their husbands unconditional respect.

But respect is earned.

Now we can always treat one another respectfully regardless of what they do, and we should do that. We should speak

kindly but firmly. We shouldn't be highly critical or mean. But speaking respectfully

is not the same thing as actually respecting someone admiring them, esteeming them and looking up to them.

You do not respect someone who is a child molester, who plays video games 12 hours a day and

refuses to get a job, who gambles away a paycheck.

Jesus did not respect the money changers or the Pharisees.

He treated them instead as their actions warranted.

Love, on the other hand, is not earned by correct actions.

Love is simply wanting the best for someone else,

and thus love is not dependent on how someone else acts.

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