I've just turned 44. I feel like I'm running out of time. I know people can get married aged

80 or whatever, but I would rather get married before that because I would like to have lots

of athletic mind-blowing sex with the person that I marry and I can't really imagine doing

that if I'm already in a nursing home when I meet somebody.

This is Deaf Sex and Money. You know dating in general is hard. The show from WNYC about

the things we think about a lot. But in the middle of a global pandemic, and need to talk

about more. It's even harder. I'm Anna Sail.

Hi Anna in team. You asked what it's like to be single and looking during COVID.

This is a listener named Carria. She's 36 and has been divorced for about three years. And

she was just feeling ready to get into another serious relationship when the pandemic began

last year. It used to be that awkward conversations about safety would happen whenever you got

to the point of being sexual with someone. And now I find myself wanting to know before

I even go on a date with someone, things like you've roommates. What do you all do for

a living? Are you all safe and wearing masks regularly? How often are you going on other

dates? None of this even touches on the issue of the social unrest and racial tensions

that have happened this year. And how that's changed when I want in a partner in the kinds

of questions I ask before I consider dating someone. There is nothing like the whole world

being figuratively and sometimes literally on fire to exacerbate your desire to find

a partner to go through it all with. If I was to sum it up, I would say being single during

COVID, I feel a sense of cautious desperation.

Cautious desperation. We heard that in the voices of many of you. In the messages you

send in about dating and being single and not wanting to be right now. You want romantic

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