Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Hello my chickens. It is the official start of the holiday season. And I can tell that

mentally I'm really ready to be done for the year. Like I am up for a six week nap. But

unfortunately I still have to write quite a bit of a book. So just details there. But I

am looking forward to things slowing down, being able to focus on the books, spending some

time with friends and family. And inexorably I think as the holidays wind on, we start hearing

and thinking about New Year's and New Year's resolutions. And I've done a couple of episodes

on New Year's resolutions in the past. And at the end of this episode I'm actually going

to give you a quick free way to get all of them sent to you. But today I want to introduce

you to a concept that I call plan A plan B. And this is a great tool for when you're setting

any kind of kind of habit based goal. But I think especially around New Year's when we tend

to be at our most kind of perfectionistic, aspirational goal setting time of year. Or you

can even say our most delusional time of year because a lot of the time our New Year's resolutions

are just like totally out of touch with whatever we've actually been doing so far. And there's

this kind of I think it was originally a tweet maybe it's an outtune into a meme, but there's

this whatever social media graphic that goes around that I share every time I see it that

says something like I've made my resolutions all of which require me to demonstrate a level

of discipline and consistency that I have never once displayed in my entire life. And obviously

I don't think that these things are about willpower or discipline. If you've been listening

to the podcast, you know that. But the core of why it's funny is what rings true, which

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