UFYB 234: How to Stop Being Defensive
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 21 April 2022
⏱️ 28 minutes
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Summary
Ever notice how when someone points out that you’re getting defensive, you tend to get more defensive?
Defensiveness can be difficult to shift because of this very reason! But it also blocks our growth, so it’s worth examining. It doesn’t come naturally and can take time to learn, but defensiveness IS a quality you can shift if you’d like.
Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how to identify defensiveness, what defensiveness has to teach us about our relationship with ourselves, and questions you can ask yourself to begin diffusing defensiveness now.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/234
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism |
| 0:13.8 | and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your |
| 0:19.3 | host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile. |
| 0:28.1 | My chicken's the weight is over. The clutch is finally, finally reopening to the public |
| 0:35.7 | soon. We've gotten emails, we've gotten DMs, we've gotten comments on her social media |
| 0:40.8 | posts. We have been working behind the scenes to create an incredible new clutch experience. |
| 0:47.4 | I am beyond excited. It's like Christmas day, except I'm Jewish, so I've never celebrated |
| 0:53.3 | Christmas, but when you see the movies, the big tree with all the piles of presents, that's |
| 0:58.2 | what this feels like. We have redesigned and revamped the entire experience so that you |
| 1:03.8 | can dive deep into courses and modules on any topic that you want to work on. I have re-recorded |
| 1:12.1 | so much new, not re-recorded, just recorded so much new teaching, so many new tools, so |
| 1:18.6 | many new lessons on all the areas that really impact women's lives and where our socialization |
| 1:24.3 | holds us back in our relationships at work and our parenting and our family lives when |
| 1:29.2 | it comes to our money mindset, when it comes to promoting ourselves, when it comes to |
| 1:33.4 | our relationships with ourselves, our bodies, food, movement, all the things. We have |
| 1:39.6 | new incredible courses on all of those topics with new teaching, new coaching exercises |
| 1:46.2 | and workbooks. The new member site is beautiful, it's so organized, it is just a dream come |
| 1:53.0 | true. |
| 1:54.0 | So we are going to be opening access to it again soon. This will be a very short open |
| 2:00.0 | period. Don't sleep on this. We will be open for sign up just for a few days because |
| 2:05.4 | we really want to get everybody who's been ready and waiting in there, and then we're |
| 2:10.2 | going to close the doors again so we can really focus on taking everybody who joins through |
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