UFYB 225: Confidence, Insecurity, and the Worst Date I Ever Went On - A Conversation with Kimmy and Liza of the 51 First Dates Podcast
UnF*ck Your Brain: Feminist Self-Help for Everyone
Kara Loewentheil
4.6 • 5.6K Ratings
🗓️ 17 February 2022
⏱️ 55 minutes
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Summary
One of the most common pieces of advice that women receive is that they should build their confidence - but where does insecurity actually come from, and what does “building your confidence” look like in the real world? Is it all power poses and affirmations, as Pinterest would have you believe?
In this special release episode, you will listen to an interview that I did on the 51 First Dates podcast to learn practical tips on how to grow your confidence (no chanting in the mirror required!). Oh, and you’ll get all the juicy details about the worst date I’ve ever been on.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/225
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism |
| 0:13.8 | and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your |
| 0:19.3 | host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile. |
| 0:26.3 | Hello, my chickens. How are you all? How is 2022? Seriously, I don't think any of us have |
| 0:39.1 | recovered from the last three years yet. Thank God for thought work. So I have a couple |
| 0:44.4 | of important things to tell you. The first one is if you want to hear the story of the worst |
| 0:50.6 | date I ever went on, then you will need to listen to this episode. I was just revisiting this |
| 0:56.8 | conversation, which was such a joy. I recorded it quite a while ago on the 51 first dates |
| 1:02.8 | podcast, and we never shared it with all of you. So we are doing that today. And it's |
| 1:08.0 | all about confidence and insecurity, which are obviously topics that apply to anyone, |
| 1:14.7 | not just someone who's dating, but I do also tell the story of the worst first date I ever |
| 1:18.8 | went on, which I just died laughing even thinking about it again. What a time in my life. |
| 1:26.6 | So let's talk about insecurity from the coaching perspective. I am so excited for you to |
| 1:33.0 | listen to my conversation with the host of 51 first dates podcast. We really get into |
| 1:39.7 | what is going on in our brains when we are comparing and despairing and when we are |
| 1:43.7 | feeling insecure about dating our love life or anything else. And don't worry, we get |
| 1:48.6 | to the story of my worst first date pretty early in the interview. So enjoy. |
| 1:53.0 | Hi everybody, I'm Liza. And I'm Kimmy, and this is a podcast called 51 first dates. |
| 2:01.0 | Yay. And we are joined today by Carl Lohan-File. |
| 2:04.2 | Kara is a master coach. She's the host of the Unfuck Your Brain podcast, and she's the |
| 2:08.6 | creator of the Unfuck Your Brain, a feminist blueprint for creating confidence. We are |
| 2:13.3 | very thank you, Kara, for being here. We're so, so lucky to have you here today, and we're |
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