Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain, the only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach,

Tara, Lowenthal. Hello, my friends. So I am so excited for you to hear the conversation

that we're going to have on this episode and the next episode. It's about a topic that

I have kind of historically had a lot of different thoughts and feelings about and to some

extent had avoided talking about because I was actually replicating some of the problems

by thinking in this very all or nothing way about it. Just like the black and white thinking

episode I just did and sort of thinking that everything has to be like being on one side

or the other or agreeing 100% or disagreeing 100% and then once I realized that actually

it was okay to just have a truthful, honest, nuanced, sophisticated conversation, it all

opened up for me. And so and I have some of my students coming on and these conversations

are so important and I think you're going to get so much out of them. Before we get to

that, I want to say that I think a lot of what you will hear in these conversations is the ways

in which some of our thoughts and feelings around what term to even use because all the terms

are so loaded and are like one side or the other quote unquote, but any of our feelings about

being reproached or called in or called out or canceled, right or whatever term we want to

use being called to account, being offered critique, being invited into a better process

and conversation like whatever we call. We talk about how some of that stuff is actually

just all mixed up in all of our own fears about what other people think. And so I wanted to

remind you all that whatever your thoughts about yourself are they don't have to stay that way

and that I have a free resource called the confidence cheat sheet that you can download and

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