Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism,

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Hello, my chickens. How are you? I hope you are all warm and dry inside your

coops. It is raining here in New York today. It's very tray and grizzly. I feel like this

happens every spring. It's like spring is sprung and we all get so excited and then it rains

for two weeks. But that's okay because everything that's going to grow needs that water, right?

April is always a big month for me, which is when I'm recording this. It's my birthday.

It's also the clutches birthday. And I actually wanted to, before we dive into this episode,

I wanted to share this amazing post that one of my students made. So actually some of you

have heard her talk before about thought works she's done because she was on a previous

episode, maybe I guess a year ago, probably at least maybe more than a year ago, where

we talked about the work she had done on dating anxiety. If you guys remember, those

of you who have been like long time listeners, I did a series of kind of interviews with

some of my students about the work they'd done because kind of no matter how often I say,

like, I work on this stuff and I'm not special in terms of this work working for me. And

I'm not just naturally chill. I've had to do all this work on it. There's just this human

tendency to think like while the person teaching you it just comes easily to them or it only

works for them or there's something wrong with you. And so I always like to try to give

you guys examples of my students who have also been able to use this work to change their

lives so that it kind of helps convince that part of your brain that always wants to think

like you're different and not think it's possible for you. So she was already on the podcast

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