Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Hello my chickens. So today I want to start with a thought experiment. And I promise

this is not going to be like your college philosophy classes. If you went to law

school, that horrible like the tram is going down the tracks and do you pull the

switch? You guys know what I'm talking about? If you're lawyers. Okay, that's not

what we're doing today. I'm a little punchy tonight. You guys, I hope that's okay.

Oh, we're all having fun. Alright, so here's the thought experiment. Let's say you're

on the beach and you're feeling pretty glad. You're feeling your look. You like your bathing

suit. You're having a good hair day with all that sea breeze. Alright, if you had to

rate your body satisfaction from one to a 10, it would be like a solid eight. Then you

look up from the self you're taking and you see two supermodels walking down the beach

trail by photographers. And suddenly you feel awful. Right, thoughts start darting through

your brain. They're gorgeous. I'll never look like that. Look how thin and glamorous they

are. I'm so frumpy. My hair is frizzy. My thighs jiggle. I hate how I look. Suddenly

your body satisfaction has plummeted. It's totally illogical, right? Those supermodels

existed before you saw them. They were just behind you and you didn't see them and you

felt great about yourself. But as soon as they're in front of you and you compare yourself

to them, then you feel terrible because you're using them to create a whole new set of self

critical thoughts. Now, we've all had an experience like this, whether it's about our body, our

career, our relationships or anything else. And I call this compare and despair. I did

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