Sometimes the hardest part of parenting isn't your kid's behavior.

It's what happens when two loving parents see the same moment completely differently.

One parent says, our kid's tired, let it go, and the other is fully triggered by that.

Um, no, we're going to hold the boundary.

One parent improvises.

The other one wants consistency, predictability, and somewhere in the middle is the kid who's trying to

figure out what the rules actually are. And the parents are trying to just not have resentment

build into an explosion. If you've ever felt like you and your partner are parenting from two

different playbooks, and it's kind of tearing you apart. This episode is for you. It's a revisit of one of

our most love episodes from the archive. I talk to a mom named Carmela about parenting with a partner

who has a very different style. And we dig into what kids really need when adults in the house

aren't on the same page. And we also talk about what's really going on underneath,

because it's different from what we assume. I'm Dr. Becky, and this is good inside. I'm so glad you're

here. I am so excited to be talking with you today.

And so how I would love to begin is just give me a little bit of a sense of what's on your mind.

And then I also, I like to hold myself responsible for giving very kind of like actionable,

specific help. So let me know what's on your mind.

And let me know what you would love to end our conversation with today.

So I make sure this is useful to you.

Sure.

So my husband and I are really different kinds of parents.

And we have very different relationship with boundaries.

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