Here's a question for design. I turn myself off when.

It's very different than you turn me off when and what turns me off is.

Look into his eyes. They're the eyes of a male obsessed by sex.

Eyes that mock our sacred institutions. Betrubize they call them in a fight on day.

You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and

liberate the conversation around sex. A stair-parallel is one of the most fascinating thinkers today on issues of desire, sex, and relationships.

In author and psychotherapist, she helps therapy patients and the general public understand the complexities of love and desire with really provocative questions.

Like how do you turn yourself on? How do you balance your need for safety and security? And on the other hand, your need for adventure and novelty?

Can you want what you already have?

As there's reshaping society's views of sexuality and eroticism and arguably healing them.

In today's episode, we talk about the difference between sexual and emotional needs, how you can calibrate your expectations for marriage, and why people in happy relationships still cheat.

We also discuss and play her new game, Where Shall We Begin?

Answer a listener's question about how to handle anxiety in relationships, and her number one piece of advice for having better sex.

All right, intentions with Emily. For each episode, join me in setting an intention for the show. I do it and I encourage you all to do the same.

My intention is to get you to think about pleasure from an emotional, physical, and relational perspective.

All right, we have a pleasure planner. It's a free downloadable guide. It's on our website. We have a bunch of guides there, but this one really helps ground you in your pleasure.

What you want to happen for the next week or the next year, just download it. SexwithEmily.com slash guides.

Oh, and also, please, please, please rate and review the show wherever you listen. We so appreciate it.

Okay, if you want to ask me a question, I love that. Just call my brand new hotline. It's 559 Talk Sex, or 559 825 5739. Right, that number down.

Oh, you can also leave me your questions there or just message me sexwithemily.com slash ask Emily. All right, everyone. Enjoy this episode.

A stair per aisle is recognized as one of the most insightful and original voices on modern relationships.

As a psychotherapist, Perral has had a therapy practice in New York City for more than 35 years.

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