Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

First you have to identify, okay, I'm saying over and over again that no one loves me,

that I'm always left behind or I'm not enough or I don't matter or whatever one of these beliefs is, I'm a burden, I'm bad, I'm wrong, all these things.

The first I'm hearing you say is like learning to identify of what's, you know, keeping us playing small from these feelings and then figuring out how do we break free of each one that we identify with, which is really hard if you don't have the tools.

Well, and I think people have been trying to do it for years.

I mean, I became a psychotherapist kind of from the inside out, only because I was so committed to breaking free of my own unconscious false beliefs.

I actually called them source fracture stories, the original break in belonging, right?

The original wounding.

And that I went to therapy for years.

And yes, it helped.

Oh my gosh.

It saved my life actually, really, because I was a comp a compulsive overeater. I had an addiction that was severe. I was non-functional. So therapy really helped. Overeaters, is that you said? Yeah, overeater. I was a binge eater. When I was in my early teens and early 20s, it was out of control. Like, I was even unemployable. So it kind of was a great thing really because it forced me to do my own work.

I couldn't progress in life unless I handled that.

So I went to therapy, I went to 12-step programs, I did all sorts of things to try and heal it.

Now, it helps to go back.

You've got to grieve you got to

you got to see what happened you you have to understand it but after that if you just

stay stuck in analyzing why you are the way you are which i did for years because that was all

that was really available,

you kind of solidify the self of that story.

Yeah, you stay stuck in the past as your identity, right?

It's like you're staying in it rather than integrating the healing and transforming beyond it and creating a new story.

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