Hi, my name is Lewis Howes and welcome to the Daily Motivation Show.

When they would do things that I didn't really agree with, or they would bully other kids or make fun of people,

I was like, I didn't want to not say anything.

You know, I didn't want to stand against them because I wanted to belong. Yeah. So if I did stand up against them, then I means I was alone. And that was my biggest fear was being alone. No, yeah, because that's what teams and groups deliver. They deliver this thing that you're not alone. Yeah. The problem is there's just, I was so shocked

to learn in the research that the opposite of belonging is fitting in. Because fitting in is

assessing a group of people and thinking, who do I need to be? What do I need to say? What do I need to

wear? How do I need to act? And changing who you are. And true belonging never asks us to

change who we are. It demands that we be who we are. Because if we, if we fit in,

because how we've changed ourselves, that's not belonging. That's not belonging. Because you

betrayed yourself for other people. And that's not belonging because you betrayed yourself for other people.

And that's not sustainable.

Yeah, you start to lose yourself.

You start to lose yourself exactly what you said.

And so I think it's hard.

You have to show up as who you are.

How do we find out who we are?

That's the life's work, right?

That's freaking hard. Do you know who we are? That's the life's work, right? That's frickin' hard.

Do you know who you are?

Yeah, I do.

Who are you?

In what way?

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