Welcome to Therapis Unsensored, a podcast where therapists freely speak their minds about real life matters. Welcome to Therapist Unsensored.

I'm Sue Marriott and I'm Patty Alwell.

And I'm Anne Kelly.

This is episode 21 and today we're going to discuss how to disentangle ourselves from the most

common knots we get ourselves into.

We all have the capacity to take the position of the perpetrator, the victim, or the rescuer

in any of our relationships.

And so understanding this dynamic can really help

to reduce drama and conflict in our lives.

Have a listen.

So today we are going to talk about something that I find myself talking a lot about in session which is this concept called

Cartman's Triangle. Have you guys ever heard of it? I've heard of it. Don't know a lot about it tell us more so the idea is it's a super

simple idea that I think will kind of turn on a light bulb the notion is that each

of us has inside of us a little triangle and on each corner there is a little

letter and so on one side of the triangle is victim and we all have it I can out victim just about anybody I have to tell.

We can compete at it. I don't know. No, I'm the bigger victim.

Oh no, but it's far worse for me.

So you get the idea, right?

And then on the other, one of the other points

of the triangle is Rescuer.

And then on the another point of the triangle is people call it different things but basically it's I think of it as perpetrator

I want you to think about that the further out and we're not making fun of this, this is actual, these are states, and

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