TU158: Are You Cool, or Just Cut Off? Dismissing/Avoidant Styles of Relating in Adulthood – REPLAY

Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP & Ann Kelley PhD

Social Sciences, Society & Culture, Science, Education, Self-improvement, Relationships

4.7 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 5 October 2021

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Don't be fooled by the illusion of security. This episode is especially for those “talk to the hand” kind of people or those that love them. You know, the uber-independent, rational, left-brain, excel spreadsheet person that sees others emotions as needy and weak. Co-hosts Sue Marriott LCSW, CGP and Ann Kelley PhD translate decades of research and clinical experience into easy to understand usable points to help you improve your understanding of why people appear so irrational at times. They talk about how internal working models of the world are formed outside of our awareness in our early life and how they get passed forward over time, sometimes causing relationship trouble. Early stress responses and relationships create a pathway, and how we talk not what we say are clues to which pathway we may be on. This episode specifically focuses on the blue side of the spectrum, which you may be familiar from research as Dismissive or Avoidant. Hosts also discuss how an individual can move towards the secure middle of the spectrum and why it is important to integrate logic with emotion. www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes

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0:00.0	Welcome to Therapist Uncensored, a podcast where therapists freely speak their minds about
0:07.4	real life matters.
0:09.1	Welcome to Therapist Uncensored, I'm Ian Kelly, and I'm Sumeriat.
0:17.3	And it's really great to be sitting back with just the two of us because this is a format
0:22.3	where we go back and forth where we bring amazing and awesome and incredible guests, but
0:27.6	also sometimes we talk among ourselves to sort of pull apart the ideas of interpersonal
0:34.7	neurobiology and attachment and relationships and really try to delve into what makes for
0:41.4	healthy connections with yourself and those close to you.
0:45.2	Right, and because we both have such a passion for this, it's kind of the core of bringing
0:50.2	us to this podcast.
0:51.2	It's going to fun just to be back here in the studio with just you.
0:55.0	That's exactly right.
0:56.0	Part of it is, I don't know, some of you are following us on our private Facebook page
0:59.9	and may know that there's been several kind of big family things happening that has taken
1:05.7	us a little bit away so that we've been putting more of the guests in in order for us to be
1:10.4	able to do life.
1:11.8	And so this is, it's, I kind of like it because it's like, this is how we do real work-life
1:17.2	balance and yet also keep the podcast going.
1:20.9	So we are super appreciative to all the guests we've had on, but we're also really happy
1:24.6	to kind of have our lives settling back down a little bit enough to be able to do, go
1:29.3	do a face-to-face and to really kind of be able to talk directly with the audience
1:32.9	again.
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