We don't have to be fixed. I'm going to still tend to go blue, you're going to tend to go red, but when we're able to talk about it and it's like I can understand what's happening on your side, you can understand what's happening on my side. We might not be able to stop it yet, but that's already moving into secure functioning. That's a secure functioning diad. It doesn't mean that those things

have to go away. I want you all to feel really good.

If you're making insights and if you're thinking of examples

for yourself, you're able to talk about it between the parties,

whoever the parties are.

It's not just romantic relationships that's already moving to the

green in a secure functioning way we don't have to become secure ourselves totally to have

secure functioning relationships and that's the good news.

That's a really powerful statement.

And that's one reason and we're talking about what to do if you identify, one of the things

I really consider is therapy.

We talk about that somebody living more on

the narcissistic or grandiose side don't tend to come in unless they're sort of

dragged in by the ears, but actually if you identify with any any elements of

that the benefits are just outstanding.

Hey make us proud and go start therapy with how we started the session.

It will blow your therapist away.

But actually they won't think that you're that narcissistic if you start that way.

That's true.

They're gonna say, oh my God, you just take me an entire year. This is holding your own, a series from Therapist Unsensor that aims to deepen and

broaden security when faced with challenging personalities.

Now, hear your co-host, Dr. Ann Kelly and Sue Marriott.

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