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And as you listen, I can just imagine little light bulbs of insight appearing

above your head. You're going to be surprised and touched at what you learn

about yourself is you get more accurate and in-depth view of your mind and your heart,

and as you figure out those close to you. Therapist Unsensored brings you decades of experience with interpersonal psychotherapy,

relational neuroscience, modern attachment, and anything else they think will be helpful in healing humans.

Now hear your co-host, Dr. Ann Kelly, and Sue Marriott.

Hey, you know one of the things I've been thinking about? We have done this course and we on this podcast we teach a lot about the big picture of what attachment looks like see I kind of I'm a little blue or I'm a little red but why don't we deep dive into just

one single habit of insecure attachment? Let's talk about the habit of how we use judgment.

Judgment of ourselves?

It's one of my favorite feelings actually.

Being judgmental.

Yes, yes, somebody. being judgmental. Yes. Yes. Somebody that I know talks about smugness as

their favorite, one of their favorite feelings. So who doesn't want to feel

righteous? Who doesn't want to feel righteous? My gosh, you're wrong, I'm right. How can they do that? Oh my God, what an idiot. Come on, it's pleasurable.

It's so is. Especially when we need that, right? Like, so what is the role of judgment?

We talk about it when we're in a blue state, we use judgment. We're in a red state.

So blue state meaning kind of more of the dismissive

Avoidant style of handling our feeling of threat.

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