TSFU: Ep. 157 - Love or Control: The Dark Truth of Netflix's "Tell Them You Love Me"
That's So Fcked Up
Ashley Love Richards
4.5 • 541 Ratings
🗓️ 19 July 2024
⏱️ 71 minutes
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Summary
Today Ash tells Fallon all about the Netflix documentary "Tell Them You Love Me." If you haven't seen it yet, the documentary tells the controversial story of Anna Stubblefield, a white university professor, and Derrick Johnson, a disabled, non-verbal black man with cerebral palsy. Anna claims she was able to unlock Derrick and help him communicate using a keyboard. Eventually they wind up in a "consensual sexual relationship," but Derrick's family (who have guardianship) isn't buying it. What follows is a court case that challenges how we define simple things like communication, disability, and consent.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey guys, just a couple quick notes before we start today's episode. |
| 0:04.0 | Trigger warning, we have a lot of sensitive discussion about race, disability, |
| 0:12.2 | SA. |
| 0:13.2 | It's kind of an intense episode, so just a little warning at the top. |
| 0:18.0 | And then for something positive and exciting, if you didn't already hear |
| 0:22.8 | on social media or this week's shark episode, it's my birthday this week. I turned, uh, what did I turn |
| 0:30.3 | 37? I turned 37 on Wednesday, July 17th. If you have not left a rating or review on Apple, |
| 0:39.1 | or you have not left a rating on Spotify, or it's been a while since you did so, you can do it again. It'll go to the top. |
| 0:46.1 | All I would ask for my birthday, so, so much, it would be so much appreciated. I don't know how |
| 0:52.0 | to talk. But if you guys could leave a rating and review, |
| 0:54.8 | that would help the podcast so much and make me so happy. And y'all's kind words really do |
| 1:01.5 | keep me going on cold lonely nights when I'm questioning why I do this. So love you. Thanks for |
| 1:07.4 | listening. Bye. The class asks him about love and relationships, and he said, I want that more than anything, |
| 1:15.6 | but that doesn't happen for people with disabilities like mine. |
| 1:19.0 | And Honor reports that at that point, she wanted to say, you can have that with me. |
| 1:24.7 | And she realized that she was in love with him. |
| 1:27.9 | And then she told him, |
| 1:30.3 | I do what I do for you because I love you. |
| 1:34.3 | That is so fucked up. |
| 1:37.1 | It's fucked up. |
| 1:38.2 | So fucked up. |
| 1:40.1 | It is just so damn fucked up. |
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