Hi everybody. Thanks again for tuning into my podcast. Today we're going to be talking about the fear that every time you go on a date and it doesn't work out the way that you hoped, for example,

he doesn't call you back or he does something that you didn't like and you have to stop seeing

him, that you wasted your time and that you're back at square one.

So, I just thought of something.

Well, I was going to say when you're going through this, it feels really hopeless at times.

And I'm laughing because I remember that for a different reason, I once in a very dramatic fashion, told my boyfriend, no matter how much effort I put in, there are no fruits to my labor.

That is so dramatic.

But that's sometimes, that's how it feels sometimes when you're putting in a lot of effort.

And maybe you're listening to podcasts and you're reading books and you're taking action on the new ideas that you're learning

and you're dating somebody new and once again it doesn't work out and you feel like you wasted

your time and your energy and your effort and you didn't get anywhere but i'm here to tell you that

that is not true at all and here's why whatever. Whatever we practice, we get better at. And so every time that you

have a dating experience, even if it doesn't work out the way that you wanted, that was still

practice. I learned this really important lesson from Brooke Castillo in her podcast, The Life Coach

School, and she has an episode called How Quitting Slows You Down. And in the beginning of the

episode, she says, quitting is a skill. And she goes on to explain that the more that you practice

quitting, meaning you commit to something and

then you quit repeatedly, the better you get at creating excuses or rationalizing why it's okay

for you to quit. And so you strengthen that skill and that ability to quit when things get

hard. And I realize that the same is true for any other skill that we're trying to learn.

So I wanted to create this podcast because I recently met a woman at a dating confidence

workshop that I led here in Santa Barbara.

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