And if you enlist support around the biggest triggers, other people will know it. You don't

feel as awkward about doing it. But again, remember, our job is to protect ourselves from these

triggers. Welcome to the Ignited Recovery podcast, a new way forward for anyone looking for

answers but feeling left out. If you've been searching for empowerment, triumph, and purpose, you've found them right here.

You won't hear the same solutions and you're not going to have any excuses to fall back on

because ignited recovery allows heroes to rise and become their best selves.

I'm Dr. Adjafi and I can't wait to be your guide on this journey.

Are you ready to become an ignited hero?

We've got to be aware of our triggers.

Obviously, there's an entire set of worksheets within the Hero program about listing out your

triggers and rank ordering them and really understanding them clearly.

But the thing is, that worksheet has to do with general everyday life.

The holidays are different.

And the reason the holidays are different is something Jen, you brought up early and Kate you brought up as well. You've had so

many past experiences of the holidays, right? Probably a few dozen at least. And if you've had a few dozen

of these experiences, there are memories and there are things that have happened at once,

potentially if they're really, really powerful and strong, or that happen all the time. What's an example? Your aunt

always asking the question, if so, who are you with now? And have you settled with anybody? Which every

single year upsets you and gets you sad and gets you into a really uncomfortable conversation with that aunt.

And she asked the question every year, not realizing, not recognizing that for you, it's a trigger.

Again, we can decide to block it out and pretend like it's not going to happen.

But if it's been happening for 10 years in a row or eight years or the last six,

...