What do I want this holiday to actually be like?

And if I can get an understanding of what I want it to be like, I can do a better job of creating it.

Happy Monday, everyone. It's Sophie.

And Adi.

We're always looking for new ways to support you.

And we know firsthand how life can get in the way.

So we've created five minute episodes with motivation from us and our great friends

to keep you feeling ignited and inspired no matter what life throws at you. Welcome to the

Ignited Motivation podcast, mini episodes every Monday. Listen while you brush your teeth or on your

morning walk. And you'll never miss out on the latest tips and tricks that are keeping us

feeling motivated. Why are we doing all these things? The reason we're doing this is we want to have

a real sense of what we want this holiday to feel like and look like. And for that, we have to

set intentions. You know I'm really, really big on let's just not, let's not only focus on the

negative stuff. We need to understand where the minds are, so we get to avoid them. But we really want to focus on what do we want? Like, what do I want this holiday to actually be like? And if I can get an understanding of what I want it to be like, I can do a better job of creating it. We're going to talk about that again here in a second. But I want you to really set an intention. What do you want?

Do you want to connect with your parents?

Do you want to have fun and leave the night feeling like you prove to everybody how much better you're

doing? Do you want to leave the evening feeling like, oh my gosh, I was able to confront my demons and my triggers and go into,

you get to choose what your intention is and it doesn't have to be coming home for the holidays.

You can set a completely different intention. But what's important here is this is the positive

facing version. And we're going to talk about why that's important here in a bit. It's the positive facing version. My take, and I'd love to hear your take on this two Jen and Kate, you don't want to go into the holiday saying, here's everything I don't want to happen. Because if all you're doing is figuring out what you don't want to happen, you're constantly on the alert looking for bad things, for threats,

for negative experiences. Now, you may be trying to avoid them, but you're still constantly

looking for them. That's the only thing you're looking for. And when you do that,

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