So start off the show today, Pam, I came up with an idea that I think there's a component

of a couple of sex life that just come, founds the problems that we can have and a lot

of times I think it falls down to male, female and in this equation we're going to use

male as the higher desire, female as the lower desire and a lot of times what happens

is I equate this to sports, right?

So men, I'll speak for me, I enjoy watching sports, true, I'll watch them, don't miss

many of the, particularly the big ones and I get into it and I enjoy it and then what

do I do after it's done?

I go watch highlights.

Oh, okay.

Well, even the next morning though, I'll watch highlights of the game, I just watch and

then I'll watch people break down the game and tell me the nuances and what they learned

and I think there's a lot of times where the higher desire man wants to debrief the

sexual encounters with his lower desire wife and she doesn't care about highlights a

lot of times.

She doesn't care about debriefing and going through the playbook and what worked and what

did in a lot of times and I think that adds a whole lot of angst to relationships because

we each go after the things when the man or we would want them or what we enjoy when

I could be with somebody that they don't need to have a film session.

Okay, that's one way of looking at it.

I guess I would just, I like watching the highlights sometimes.

That's why I love you.

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