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Inner Work: A Spiritual Growth Podcast

TRIGGERED! When you feel unheard or misunderstood

Inner Work: A Spiritual Growth Podcast

Josephine Hardman

Self-improvement, Education, Religion & Spirituality, Spirituality

4.9619 Ratings

🗓️ 16 January 2021

⏱️ 14 minutes

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Summary

Today, we begin with a powerful quote from Victor Frankl: "Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom."

These words remind us that we don't have to respond reactively to life. That we can notice and work with our triggers to diminish our knee-jerk reactions, which can often cause suffering for ourselves and/or others.

In this episode, I answer a listener email about a specific triggering situation: when you feel unheard or misunderstood in the context of an intimate relationship (or friendship). I share what I have found useful in these situations. I also encourage you to examine past relationship dynamics - including your relationships with your parents - so you can take stock of the unhealed or core wounds you bring with you into your interactions with people now.

Thank you for supporting the podcast by tuning in! If you have a minute, please leave a rating or review on Apple Podcasts to help the podcast be discovered by more people on the healing path. Or, better yet, share the podcast with a friend.

To connect with me directly, head over to www.josephinehardman.com

 

Music & editing by G. Demers
Inner Work 2021 All Rights Reserved.

Transcript

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0:00.0

Welcome to Inner Work, a spiritual growth podcast.

0:06.0

I'm your host, Josephine Hartman.

0:08.0

I'm an intuitive healer and certified Akashik Records reader and teacher,

0:13.0

driven by the purpose of helping others become more powerful by reconnecting to the healer within.

0:19.0

To explore my work or connect with me, you can visit josephinehardman.com.

0:24.9

If you feel called to support the podcast, please leave a rating or review on Apple Podcasts.

0:30.6

I so appreciate your presence here, and I'm honored to serve as a guide or companion on your path for a little while. Now, on to the episode.

0:43.5

Victor Frankel was an Austrian neurologist, philosopher, author, and Holocaust survivor. In his

0:50.7

famous memoir, Man's Search for Meaning, Frankel says that,

0:55.0

between stimulus and response, there is a space.

0:59.0

In that space is our power to choose our response.

1:02.0

In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

1:07.0

I was recently reminded of this quote, and I wanted to use it to open the third episode of this

1:13.4

triggered series because the quote concisely distills it really gets at why I set out to create

1:21.6

these episodes in the first place. Frankel mentions that between stimulus and response, there is a space.

1:29.6

This means that there's a space, there's a pause between our triggers and our reactions to

1:36.4

those triggers, even if sometimes that pause is half a second. There is still a pause.

1:44.0

So there's a space between someone cutting you off in traffic

1:47.2

and you cursing them out, honking your horn, and working yourself up into a stressful frenzy.

1:55.2

There's a space between your mother-in-law criticizing your cooking or clothing or how you parent your children

2:01.6

and the response that you choose to give her. There's a response between someone leaving a nasty

2:09.2

or just irrelevant comment on your social media post and the words that you choose to write back.

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