You might, for example, you grow up with like an angry man in your house, your dad's really angry, whatever.

When you then seek out relationships with angry men, are you seeking to just replicate that dynamic

and put yourself back in that cycle of pain because it's what you know?

Maybe, some people say.

Or actually, is it more about we seek to recreate those relationships that we know and we seek to recreate the pain that we already know so that in this instance in our adult life, we can take it to its conclusion, fix it and complete it.

So if you grow up with an angry man in your house, you might seek out angry men, not because

you think that's healthy love, but because there's a part of you maybe that thinks I

identify that that was an issue. And now I'm going to take it on in my adult life so that I can

complete that and fix that art for myself. I'm going to take that to its conclusion. I'm going to

end that cycle. Especially when it comes to romantic relationships, the ideas of what people think they want and

what they truly are attracted to and desire are often like so different. Yeah, and also who are

we to know? It's not my business, who I want, who I think I want.

Doesn't make sense.

It often is like kind of inconvenient or like it's, how many times are we being like,

oh, I just wish I liked that person there that's really nice and he's great in every way.

He likes me and he's there and all the stuff, but I don't feel it. And the person that you do like is some fucking like, why. I was like my red flag.

I think it just feels like something that I've just seen throughout so many men and I just think I

it's not something that I, it does seem to be something that I seek out, but every single time it's a problem. So I think it

would be good for me to like not go for that. But at the same time, there is clearly some kind of draw.

If there's something that we see as a problem, but as an adult, maybe this is my chance to make that right and correct it that's what

I find interesting is the tension between what you find attractive and what you find repellent there's a

tension there of like okay that trait or that behavior is risky for me and I want it yeah if it goes a

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