Transforming the Jerk - Ask Paul About Waiting During a Long Distance Relationship - Making a Contingency Plan in Case of a Break Up or Divorce

The Overwhelmed Brain

Paul Colaianni: Emotional Abuse and Relationship Expert

Mental Health, Education, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

4.5 • 2K Ratings

🗓️ 24 January 2016

⏱️ 63 minutes

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Summary

There are jerks in our lives, at least that's what we tend to call them sometimes, that just never stop getting on our nerves. We hope they act differently, but they never change their ways. Is there anything we can do? Well, we can open our hearts and see what happens. Scary thought! And why would we want to open our hearts to someone who acts so badly toward us? Find out in this episode. Also, in the Ask Paul segment, I read a message from someone who is in a long-distance relationship and isn't sure what to do since it will be three years until they can be together. What would you do? Would you wait? Could you? Finally, what's your contingency plan in case of a break-up or divorce? Do you have one? I'm not talking about your heart. I'm talking about your finances mostly. Some people are left with nothing after a break-up because they believe that what they had would never end. The truth is hard to face that it is possible that what you have could end, so maybe it's a good idea to take care of yourself at least a little bit in the relationship too - that way if it all goes down, you won't have so many pieces to pick up and put back together.

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0:00.0	Are you tired of that same old rehashed personal growth advice that all seems to boil down to,
0:10.0	think positively and all your problems will go away.
0:14.0	If affirmations feel like lies and positive thinking feels like denial,
0:18.0	then I want you to get ready.
0:20.0	The overwhelmed brain is here to help you create the life you want now. Hello this is Paul Coliani host of the overwhelmed brain and your personal empowerment coach.
0:45.2	This is the personal growth show for the critical thinker.
0:48.2	On every episode we'll talk about practical down-to-earth steps to help you improve your mood and keep you
0:56.4	sane in this powerful journey we call life.
1:00.4	I want to help you bridge the gap between your emotions and reason, causing you to discover why you do the things you do and what you can do to reach higher levels of happiness and lower levels of stress and overwhelm. If you're here to learn
1:15.1	more common sense tips for improving your life, you're in the wrong place. This is
1:20.2	the direct path to uncommon sense and that's why it's going to help you learn,
1:25.3	heal, grow, and evolve. Let's get to today's quote which is by Martin Luther King
1:31.7	Jr. and it's this.
1:33.0	Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.
1:40.0	Now the reason I chose this quote is because it's very fitting for what can change in your life.
1:47.0	If you want to transform someone in your life that is mean to you that you just can't get along with or that
1:59.6	you want to get along with but you can't find a way to do it. Show them love. Now I don't mean I love you. I just
2:07.6	mean show them compassion. Show them something friendly instead of a reaction.
2:15.0	Now, how do you do this?
2:17.5	Some people you don't think might even deserve that,
2:20.5	but I watched a movie last night called Soul Surfer and it is the true story or based on the true story of Bethany Hamilton and she was a 16 year old Surfer in Hawaii who had her arm bitten off by a shark.
2:37.5	If you've never looked at the story or have never seen the movie, it's worth looking into because
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